EP 72: Rebuilding Boundaries After Abuse Ft. Carla Wilmaris
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No man I think my brother has NPD he fits the description perfectly
Megan…please shush and let Carl talk through her feels. Stop interrupting! Omg
Unprofessional of the Therapist to talk about another client with you even if they’re you’re Fiancé.
Carla im sorry about what happened to you but you have to take responsibility for your actions cause you knew he was a whore before you got with him so what do you expect from someone like that lol. Take responsibility!!!!!!
This was definitely needed I’m going through this right now and it’s so hard to break the cycle. I found myself missing him, obsessively thinking about him. I really feel like I’m spiraling
Meg babes….. learn to let the guest talk without interrupting them
Just relating to 54:00, where Megan says when you exit you need to have a plan, be calm, no emotions, be very strategic.. last week. My aunt moved out of my home and back into her home with her husband. Long story short, they were married for 25 years and then she got super sick and he abandoned her. Her best friends and I thought this would be a good opportunity to have a convo and let her know this is a good opportunity and an exit for her to leave him we just need to be very strategic in doing so. Anyway, just relating to what she said because I’ve been there done that myself and then with my aunt deciding to go back to her husband…. I even decided to come up with an entry plan to there. If she were to leave him for the second time, like how can she be more prepared. Also, how can she be prepared to move back in with him. Like she needs to be on that lease. Sounds crazy but it’s true. She’s 61, I can’t tell her what to do what I can do my very best to set her up for success.
Carla has come along way! I remember working with her back in the day! Around 2012/13 yrs
I can relate to this conversation a whole lot, I have been tearing all through. I am blessed 💗
This… I've been strategically planning to leave my narcissist and my time is coming to fully execute and GO.
She's absolutely right… once you see THEM for who they really are, you just can't unsee it.
Anyone else experiencing this, I hope you get out safely too. ❤ We deserve so much better.
i swear this episode is much needed!! God is most definitely telling me that HE HAS BEEN SHOWING ME ALL THE SIGNS since the beginning. All those "random thoughts of truth" and Body Reactions I've been ignoring was his way of telling me over and over to pay attention. Yes, at a young age a lot of us aren't thought to be more aware of ourselves mentally, emotionally, physically, & spiritually. We aren't even thought to have boundaries, everything we know is to caters to the surface level.
watching this episode has me in deep thinking and how i need to prepare myself. Thank You Carla & Megan for sharing your stories. S/O to KFS Podcast Thank You for all that you guys do.
Felt, real bad!!! #ButGod…🙌🏽
I’m so glad you ladies had this discussion. Thank you!
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When you are love bombed so long and then there is a switch. That can really cause emotional damages because you question your own discernment. In these instances can these people be avoided?
Nobody knows what you go through and when you tell them they don't want to believe it bcus narcissist are so loved by outsiders
Why y’all got her on here lying on wax for click bait and trying to get views 🤦🏽♂️ that’s out don’t believe her story the way she’s telling it
I can’t agree with not setting boundaries when you want to.. you’re allowed to evolve at any moment so that would include setting boundaries. The key is communication so that no one is blind sided or feels “switched up” on. If you care about the people in your life, it’s important to communicate why you have these new boundaries with them. They may be angry at first but that’s okay, that’s on them.
Wow not wax 🤦🏿♂️
@Carla…ive been reading a book called Mother Hunger. Its about daughters who didn't get what they needed from their mothers and we search for it in friendships and relationships. Its a good book i am reading now. This year i learned a new teem called the Mother Wound. Thus really resonated with me in healing my relationship with my mother issues. God bless and good luck in your continuing healing journey.
When Megan said “or youre scared of the up because you know it’s going to go down” really hit home for me… because you don’t even wanna go up at all again just staying down… that narcissistic abuse hit different it’s so hard to explain the wound
This episode was amazing. I was definitely triggered relating so much to Carla’s experience but I’m grateful for those triggers because it reveals there’s so much more work to do. Peace and love to anyone who has overcame this type of trauma and prayers to the ones still in it. Just know there’s peace on the other side of doing the work ❤
Book: Boundaries and Goodby's 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 And she has a prayer after each chapter
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This episode literally made me cry , cause my last relationship was thee definition of a narcissistic experience. I lost myself and felt completely alone after leaving. That relationship f*cked me up mentally up until he got physically abusive. I’m still healing from all that this episode made me feel seen.
Y’all spoke about why speaking about y’all experiences through podding is important for viewers to not feel a lone — YES , YES ! Bless y’all for this.
Wow wax that’s so hard to believe. U never know
If you here fa a wax update 40:12
I wish there were time stamp so I could just jump to the parts that are good, I never listen to this podcast.
She's lying on Wax for clout
Wow, this hit home. I recently let my daughter dad know that I’m leaving because of the treatment I’m receiving “nothing physical” but I’m emotionally a wreck.
I Love me some Megan! Such a pure soul
It makes so much sense now. Charlamagne use to be on Wax’s ass and now it makes sense. Charla don’t even talk about Wax no more. Damn Wax get help. Blessings Carla and enjoy your life .
This was extremely triggering for me and I thought I was healed…
This was the most perfect timing for me. And it couldn’t be further from the truth. The calm after the storm is a real adjustment. It’s a battle within yourself. And you have to scream. However that may look for you… and the safe guy is always better. I use affirmation daily to remind myself.. thank you so much for this I love this platform 🙏🏽🤎 I feel more healed after listening
This was so good!! ❤
here because of the bi reddit – sorry to hear. and around 40 min mark is esp harrowing because that was schulz wedding i assume. this explains why he they axed him. however loreal shampoo girl needs to be axed for standing by him.
THIS EPISODE WAS AMAZING!!! ❤
20:40 pleaaase make a short about her speaking about boundaries!! Literally my current situation at 30 years old EVERYBODY MAD 😂
WOW! don't stop sharing content like this! I was experiencing all of this and thought I was crazy plus feeling alone because of the changes of life. Life be Life'n! LBVS…anywho! This is what I needed because I too have been trying to set boundaries. That s**t is hard. lol
I love B Simone. She listened attentively through and through❤