Dr. Doug Lisle Answeris Q&A: Marrying Someone Less Attractive, Nose Piercings & Childhood Trauma


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  1. Melanie G
    Melanie G says:

    I am a better person because I get to listen to Doug Lisle and I say that with the utmost respect – his ability to explain human behavior is unmatched and I have learned so so much from him! Thank you so much for bringing his wisdom to mainstream America and beyond!

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  2. Teresa Gosser
    Teresa Gosser says:

    I never equated loudness with testosterone. Interesting. We have a coworker who talks very loud all the time—her voice carries. I think we all have believed she needs to be more self aware and lower her volume. But you've given me a different perspective. Interesting about the attractiveness, too, and also the idea of openness regarding the nose ring. Fascinating. And are people really that aware of their own level of attractiveness? I have no idea if I was a 5 or an 8. And now that I'm 60, I am invisible, it seems.

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  3. Mary Davidson
    Mary Davidson says:

    In regards to the gentleman’s question about the lady with the nose ring… I gotta say I always thought that many of the women who had nose rings especially the hog ring type, we’re just effectively trying to be cool, fit in, and be liked. Not that Dr. Lyle excluded this as another facet of the situation.

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  4. Billie Read
    Billie Read says:

    I was sexually abused starting at 5 years old, by two separate family members . I told my mother and she told me not report it because I shouldn’t cause a scene or cause problems for other people. That interaction had affected every thought I’ve had since that interaction. Apparently other people matter more than me. So, I have a hard time with his theory.

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  5. Hugo Marquez
    Hugo Marquez says:

    What a man is supposed to be like and act like is a social construct, the biological sex isn’t (it is to a degree but there are more objective things by which to measure it). This whole “a man needs to be this way,” is complete BS, a man doesn’t need to be any particular way, an there are lots of different configurations in which successful children are raised, with the man more hands on, with the woman more hands on, either way is fine, so long as the couple agrees on it. It’s not his place to judge. Just because it’s been done more a certain way, doesn’t mean it can’t be done a certain other way. Evolutionary psychologists have a hard time grasping that concept.

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  6. Noelle Cuisine
    Noelle Cuisine says:

    Actually ‘very open’ on the big 5 is a curse haha 😂, it’s me in my youthful life making crazy loops dances, exploratory trips, experiences in all fields !!!! Much better now age 53 and a little more tame and wiser (more seasoned by life !) knowing myself better for sure too !
    Cheers 🥂 you guys !!!!
    Love these talks

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  7. PantaMeowMeow. S.
    PantaMeowMeow. S. says:

    Ha! I checked out the Greenies online – it is a canine dental chew snack, guess they have a feline product too. He mentioned a cat. I thought Dr. L had some processed snack chips for himself back there and forgot to remove it.

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  8. A to the L
    A to the L says:

    I am also wondering if genetics and childhood trauma don’t go hand in hand. Kind of like in the WFPB world where it is said that genetics is the gun and the lifestyle is what can pull the trigger. Is it the same with personality? The genetics/personality is the gun and the childhood trauma pulls the trigger?

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  9. Kristina Fontaine
    Kristina Fontaine says:

    Down the rabbit hole for the last hour of the show with the childhood trauma question. Come on, we have heard Dr. Lisle's take on this before. I'm sure there were many other questions that would have been relatable to the majority of the audience. That's why we love the Dr. Lisle segments.

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  10. SaraG
    SaraG says:

    No one gives better book recommendations than the good Dr. Spent has now been ordered 🙌🏼 The Pleasure Trap was life changing and I’m so excited for the next book 😍

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  11. paula copier
    paula copier says:

    Every time i listen to Doug Lisle i think: so American! Or so male thinking. Thinking in numbers, ridiculous. Hope europeans agree with me. It must be bigger, smarter, more beautiful.

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  12. Lulu & Meow
    Lulu & Meow says:

    In the UK I've begun to see attractive slim men with very overweight, unattractive women and it got me wondering whether it is easy for men to hook up with these women because a) there are now so many obese/overweight women and fewer slim beautiful ones, it's a question of numbers; b) these women are (sexually) available and probably can't afford to be as choosy about a partner as a slim, confident, beautiful woman, these men may just be using them for sex or company, they might think these women will just be grateful to have someone and be less assertive, etc. It does surprise me every time I see an obese woman with a slim, attractive man. I have also seen couples where the woman became obese after marriage, for example after having children, while the male stays slim and youthful-looking and I wonder if the man would have married her if she had been obese when they met, and if he still finds her attractive.

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  13. Syrah Smythe
    Syrah Smythe says:

    -Marrying, no. 
    -Being in a relationship with someone less attractive, of course(!) as long as their personality is gold and they don't have too many bad habits.
    -Nose piercings, heck no.
    -Childhood trauma, thankfully no.

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